Forward

A decision made and acted upon should never be frown upon or worth regretting. This was how I have always felt about stuff. Sometimes, when the situation calls for a quick decision and to ease the suffering of related parties, it is made at the consideration of the well-being of all. It does not and never will be one sided; being such would only amount to regretting the decision made.

Reflecting on bad decisions made would always be the best way to learn. Regretting will get me nowhere as I would just keep pondering on my mistakes and yet not move forward. But does the other party sometime hope that you would move on so soon? I'd separate the time frame for both as short term and long term. Reflections being short term as you quickly address the wrong choice made and think of what you could have done to better it, leaving no time for remorse and jumping to the next phase. Regrets can last a lifetime, amounting to long term. You do not get over it and it comes back to haunt you all the time. You run from it, seek solace and possibly distract yourself from your negative emotions but yet, in the end everything hits you twice as hard and often lessons which could have been learned becomes irreversible scars, embedded into your memory, lasting to be worse memories that haunt you over and over again.

Scars do not heal over time. They are merely forgotten and are easily triggered by events, people. We only run away from them, burying them deep within but yet they spring forth faster than any sweet memory and eats into us. They are a reminder to us at times too, that in our happiest moments in life, that when we are probably at our most vulnerable moments, we must never be complacent and to be alert to avoid a possible comeback. So do we associate them with reflections or regrets? It is of a nature that takes two shapes... and often to how we would want to see it. Yet, the determination in human is such, that sometimes we think and feel that we have learned from a mistake, we truly haven't and it is just sitting there. Waiting for us. In its darkest moment, spring forth, causing more agony and regrets for life.